The “Shadow” aspect of ourselves relates to those parts we attempt to hide, deny or even suppress. They can be characteristics that we dislike about ourselves, qualities that we judge “unacceptable”, or even seemingly positive attributes that we feel we need to suppress in order to “fit in”.
The Shadow comes in many forms – angry, critical, fearful, lazy, controlling, selfish, weak, or even pathetic – none of which we really want to expose to the world, or even ourselves. Most of us spend a large amount of energy attempting to rid ourselves of or controlling these unwanted aspects and we attempt to convince ourselves that unless we do, we are flawed and inadequate, even unlovable. We believe, and indeed are told by some “life coaches” that in order to find peace and happiness, and to be successful, we need to fix our “bad qualities”, or at the very least hide them from view. In our attempts to do this, we merely become masters of disguise, going to great lengths to hide these “unacceptable” qualities from those around us – and even from ourselves.
In ignoring and suppressing such qualities do not make them disappear. All we are actually doing is forcing them deeper and deeper into our subconscious, almost like sweeping dust under the rug. Here, in the almost forgotten realm of our psyche, they are left to fester until they resurface, often in a manner that we can no longer ignore.
The result of turning our backs on our Shadow? A life that slips by only half lived. Dreams that are never realized, or worse, that lay buried under years of resignation and shame.
- Until we make peace with our shadow we will continue to be at war with ourselves and our outer world will mirror our inner struggle. What we resist persists – and we will create and attract from others that which we most dislike in ourselves.
- Until we are able to feel authentic compassion for each and every aspect of ourselves, we will continue to draw forth people and events that will mirror the negative feelings we have about ourselves.
- Until we take back our power and forgive ourselves for being human we will attract people who push our buttons and reactivate our emotional wounds.
- Until we find the courage to love ourselves completely, we will never truly be able to experience the love from those around us.
If we are not getting the respect, love and appreciation we desire from the outer world, it is more than likely we are not giving these things to ourselves. This is the benevolence of the universe in action. The whole world is a mirror of our own consciousness, and when we make peace with the disowned aspects of ourselves, we make peace with the world.
When we allow this to occur, we awaken to the realisation that the peace and happiness we seek externally can only actually be realised with we accept ourselves. We become aware that “perfection” is everywhere, even in the “imperfect”.
Registrations are currently open for the online month long sadhana (spiritual journey) that I will be hosting that incorporates exploring the shadow under the guidance of the Dark Goddess. Starting on Saturday, 6 June 2020 (just after the full moon) and concluding just before the following full moon on 4 July 2020 the Encountering the Dark Goddess sadhana journey is specifically designed to take participants into the realm of a chosen “darker” aspect of the divine feminine to explore the various aspects of their own shadow self in order to commence positive change at the deepest level.
Throughout the month long journey you will be provided with detailed information about the various Dark Goddesses, instructions as to how to set up altars and undertake daily devotional work, suitable prayers and a list of offerings for your chosen goddess, weekly emails containing metaphysical and psychoanalytic concepts regarding working with the Dark Goddess and the “Shadow Self”, group rituals and much more.
In my forthcoming book, Encountering the Dark Goddess: A Journey into the Shadow Realms, I share how to utilise the mythologies of specific Goddess whose very nature is about change, destruction, mask removal and much more, in ways designed to accept our own shadow.
Whether you seek healing from past trauma, release from fears or acceptance of the “unacceptable” aspects of your self through the power of meditation, ritual or inner journeying, Encountering the Dark Goddess: A Journey into the Shadow Realms offers itself up as a guide to assist you to embrace the ever changing aspects of life.
From my own personal experience (of which I share in this book) I am of the belief that when we connect the Dark Goddess, we are able to find the light within the darkness and our lives are enriched through the integration of all aspects of our soul as a perfect whole.
Encountering the Dark Goddess: A Journey into the Shadow Realms is being published by John Hunt Publishing and should be available for pre-order from mid-June 2020 through Amazon US, Amazon UK, Indiebound, Barnes & Noble, Waterstones and the like, with ebook pre-orders appearing a month or so before its physical release in 26 March 2021.